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Parenting a preemie can be tough and it's important to find ways of coping and looking after your own health. It can also make you feel more in control if you can learn some great strategies to help with your prem's learning and development.


Finding a balance and a way forward

Parenting a preemie can be challenging and is a significant life transition. It is important that you find time and ways of taking care of your own health and wellbeing. Eating well, staying fit and healthy, and getting enough rest and relaxation are vital for optimal health. Maintaining and caring for relationships, especially with your partner is also important. If you need it, don't discard the option of professional assistance. Also, find advice about optimizing development and learning strategies to help with thinking & behavior difficulties.

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Tips for Coping with Separation

When born a preemie baby is usually place in the NICU. This period can be a difficult time for parents.

Below is a list of things to do doing the times you are separated from your new born baby.


Tips for Coping with Separation from Your Baby

  • Find a way to celebrate your baby’s birth, some parents of preemies say it helps to start a baby book or album, to shop for baby clothes, or to decorate the nursery
  • Inform people of the birth, send out notification cards and share your joys and sorrows as you choose, this can be a good opportunity to welcome and show your love for your baby
  • Do what feels right for you. Spend as much time as you want or can with your preemie. Don’t be made to feel guilty or let others tell you what you should and shouldn’t be doing
  • Keep a journal of your baby’s expressions, things they like and dislike, and little characteristics that show their own unique personality. This can be a great way to learn a lot about your preemie and can be very valuable information for medical staff who may not understand your baby’s body language as well as you
  • Try to learn more about your delivery. Ask your partner, nurses and doctors for details or you might want to know why things were done a particular way. This can help you recover emotionally and also fill in any gaps in your story you can’t remember or didn’t understand
  • Talk about your delivery and your premature baby. It is healing to tell your story. Keeping a journal or baby book, or chatting to people on forums can also help
  • Take photos regularly, it can be a great way of keeping track of your baby’s development, changes in appearance, and progress in health and strength.
  • Some parents find it therapeutic to write little notes to their baby that express their love, thoughts, hopes and desires
  • Leave notes at baby’s bedside for Caregivers and visitors, to remind them of any special needs or preferences your prem has (link to downloaded posters)
  • Leave reminders for Caregivers to wait for you to arrive if you plan to be there for any special reason, like feedings, bath time, helping with care giving
  • You might like to ask your baby’s primary nurse to leave you notes” from baby’s point of view”, describing any new developments or condition changes
  • Express breast milk if you can, it can make you feel more maternal. Even if baby isn’t ready, pumping and storing is a way to make you feel you are planning for time when your prem is ready
  • Place an item of your clothing in the incubator, perhaps a nightie or T-shirt you’ve worn for a couple of nights. Your scent can be of comfort to your baby
  • Take something home that has your baby’s scent on it, some parents say smelling it helps them feel close to their baby
  • Record yourself reading, singing or talking softly and leave in the NICU so baby can listen to it when you are not there
  • Some parents buy a special piece of jewellery or object to celebrate the early arrival of their preemie baby
  • Protect and welcome your new baby in ways that are important for you and your family



AlbertEinstein_iconOne of the greatest minds in history, Albert Einstein was born preterm.

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Preemie, Premmie, or Prem?

Most babies spend between 38 and 42 weeks in their mother’s uterus. So, technically a preterm birth, preemie, premmie, or prem, is an infant who is born less than 37 completed gestational weeks. 

Read More: Defining Preterm birth



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